Mental Health Monday

The first Monday of every month will be dedicated to mental health because mental and sexual health go hand in hand.

Depression is a bitch.

Seriously, it takes such a huge toll on your life. You spend days, weeks, months, years in this dark mindset that you can’t seem to fight. It’s taken many lives. It’s caused many divorces. Sometimes it even causes bad familial relationships. It’s so isolating. You push everyone away because you feel like they don’t understand and even though there are people out there that feel the same way you do, you still feel so alone.

Since I switched my medication back in October, I have never felt better mentally. My old medication was good but the sexual side-effects were terrible. I can say, after being on the new medication for two months, that not only is my mental health in a great place, so is my sexual health and I love it. It’s great to have that part of me back.

I have some new year’s resolutions, sure we all do, but I also have some New Year’s Priorities. Things that I am committing to. Things that cannot be given up on at all. Things that I will stick to even if I’ve ditched my resolutions, as so many of us do.

My Top 3 New Year’s Priorities

1. Journaling & Mental Health Planner

One priority of mine is to stay on top of journaling. I’d like to do it every single day, but I know life will get in the way sometimes but I’m going to try harder and something I know will help me is keeping my mental health planner. I have been tracking the days I’ve been journaling and it helps to keep me motivated when I can see each day with a little pink star. But also in my planner I’m adding at least one positive quote or thought per day.

2. Physical Health

N and I did very well for about two months last year working out and eating right and we both felt great mentally and physically. But then we started to slip as we made great friends that wanted to feed us good food and from there it just snowballed back into old habits. Then the holidays came. Do you know how hard it is to start eating healthy during November and December? So I figured what the hell, load up on carbs and sweets for the final two months (more so in December, I had far too many cookies) and then hit it hard in the beginning of the new year.

Everyone makes these resolutions, I am aware of that. I’m also aware that we made these resolutions last year and we stuck to them for two months. Today is our fresh start. Only whole foods from here on out and we will be starting power yoga tonight. A strong body makes a strong mind and I know how important exercise is for mental health. I’m not looking to loose anymore weight. There wouldn’t be anything left of me if I did. I just want to make my body strong so I’ll be focusing mostly on weight training with some cardio.

3. Cleaning House

This year a top priority of ours is to clean out our disastrous basement and garage. I want this whole house completely organized by next January including getting rid of EVERYTHING we haven’t touched in months. It’s not like we are hoarders but we do just have a lot of stuff that would be better off in the trash or donated to someone who would actually use it. I think this type of purging of our things and organizing the areas full of boxes will help us both mentally. There won’t be so much stuff or areas where we feel stressed because we know we need to get rid of the boxes but don’t have the time. This year we will make the time.

I’m excited for what this year is going to bring for my mental health. This is going to be the best year of my life. I can feel it.

Do you have top priorities that you’re focusing on this year?




13 thoughts on “Mental Health Monday

  1. Thank you. I suffer horrifically from my depression. It’s the reason I deleted my original blog site; if you remember, a few moths back.

    Depression, anxiety ALL of it it’s a major bitch. I’ve missed days of work behind it. It makes me feel like a failure at times, but I am (and guess always will) learning to deal/ live with this disease.

    Thank you for a wonderful post. #AshleyISawesome

    1. Thank you! Yes I remember that. And I understand completely. I have had days where I just want to throw my entire computer in the trash. I’m trying really hard to focus on positive thoughts and being nicer to myself. Because it really does help. But I’ve slipped off the bandwagon and boy is it so easy to fall back into old patterns.

      I hope this year brings you tools to help yourself better handle all of it. ❤️ And you can always email me at if you need someone to talk to! ❤️

      1. Thank you! I am working on being good to myself more as well. I’m actually quite proud of myself for NOT falling into a major depression since the holidays: lost my job, moved into a shelter two days before xmas, still dealing with the injuries I’ve sustained (and it being activated because of the cold weather now) from being hit by an SUV while crossing the street on 12/2/17, having anxiety while crossing the street now because of it, etc.,etc.,etc. It’s never ending!

        1. Omg!!! I’m so sorry! But I do understand the anxiety from accidents! I was in one once (well more than once but this one is the one that messed me up) and now I grip my seatbelt when someone hits their breaks in traffic. Accidents are so scary! But as a pedestrian, omg!!!!!!! I couldn’t imagine but I do feel for you. Cold weather sucks. I hope you get some relief!!! Just tell yourself that 2020 will be a better year. It will be! The start of a new decade. It’s all up from here! ❤️❤️

      2. On a great note, I’ve been blogging everyday. I even started writing an erotic novel. I have been doing my best to keep myself busy and productive.

  2. That is so great that you found a med that works better for you. You’ve set some great goals. Getting rid of stuff can definitely help mentally for some reason. I had to downsize a few years back and I actually love owning less stuff. I have what I need, I need what I have. Then this past year I tackled the garage. Donated everything that I had been holding onto that I didn’t have space in the my small house for. Felt great.

    I’m no stranger to depression. It is in fact a bitch.

    1. That sounds like such an amazing feeling! It feels like we have outgrown our home but I really think we just have too much junk. I’ve already been tackling a few places in the house, it feels like a weight is lifted each time and I’m like “oh yeah we do have a lot of space”. Haha.

      1. It does feel great. I had to downsize to 545 sq feet and yet I feel like I have plenty of space. I didn’t think it could be done. I thought I’d be miserable but I love it.

  3. Very good to read that you have medication under control and it’s working so well.

    These are great plans and priorities for the year, best wishes on keeping healthy in 2020.

    Thank you for linking to SB4MH.

    melody 🌹

  4. Oh wow.
    When I read this I felt like I wrote it myself. LOL.
    I had similar “goals” and priorities. Journaling is a huge part of my daily routine. I slack off when life gets busy but I do catch up. Health is always a flop for us. But we do have good intentions LOL.
    and OMG cleaning the house! I’m with you on that. Although we’ve been at it for years. Once all the kids moved out we did a remodel and moved stuff around and now we are trying to go through all that stuff and now one son moved back. UGH. Never ends. Wishing you all the luck with these. And hope you continue to link up every month to SB4MH. (even if it’s not prompt related, all are welcome).

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