Mental Health IS Sexual Health

I’m going to get real with you guys in this post. If you’re looking for my normal sexy posts, this won’t be one, but I promise I’ll be back to my normal posts soon.


Last year, after having my son I experienced the worst Postpartum Depression (PPD) of my life. I was more depressed than I had ever been in my life. When I went to my son’s one month check up, I had to fill out a form and I decided to fill it out honestly and I’m glad I did. I cried and the pediatrician hugged me and told me that I needed to talk to my Midwife, ASAP. I had an appointment scheduled for two weeks later. At that appointment they also did a PPD screening. I was honest then too and cried. My midwife put my on an anti-depressant right away and I felt better knowing that things were going to get better.

I started my anti-depressant, Celxa, the very next day and I felt the effects very quickly. They worked great. I was on 10mg daily. (Average is 20mg.) But even at such a low dose, as my body got used to the medication around 7 or so months, I noticed my sex-drive decreasing.

I had loved sex so much before starting this medication. I masturbated almost daily, but the sexual side-effects began to kick in. I no longer masturbated, AT ALL and N and I were only having sex once a week. I was looking at it as a habit and not something I really wanted. The feeling was numbed as well so sex didn’t even feel as pleasurable has it had before.

Due to my numbing sex-drive. It’s been hard to feel sexy. It’s been hard to write sexy posts. It’s been hard to write erotica. The two things I’ve come to love. Two things that I am undeniably good at. So I started posting less and less (as I’m sure you’ve noticed). This then created anxiety around my blog. I felt like I had let you guys, my followers and fans down.

On top of this my cycles have been horrendously painful. Migraines (I’ve never had a Migraine before June) and cramps that were so bad that I was crying. Including on ovulation day. Sex was becoming painful.

A few weeks ago, I got fed up with it. I made an appointment with my midwife and I told her what was going on. I’m excited to say that I’m in the middle of switching to a medication that has no sexual-side effects and I’m being put on birth control to help regulate my hormones.

Sexual side effects from medications and hormonal imbalances can mess up your sex life. I thought I would be destined to live the rest of my life this way. Completely stopping my anti-depressants is not an option as I’d rather be happy with less of a sex-drive than in complete despair. I’m so happy to know that things are getting worked out and I’m going to be back to my nympho-high sex drive.

I am writing this post today to let people know that if your sex-drive is non-existent due to medications, there’s other’s out there that you can try. You don’t have to live your life with these side effects. You don’t have to wonder what’s wrong with you. You can switch your medications and you can be 100% happy all the way around.

I promise, I’ll be back to posting m-f in November. And Blogmas is right around the corner. 25 DAYS of posts. Don’t miss out, make sure you’re following my blog so you get notified of my posts.

LOVE YOU ALL. Thank you for sticking around as I sort myself out. ❤



7 thoughts on “Mental Health IS Sexual Health

  1. This summer has been rough on a lot of people I talk with. Glad you’re coming around. Let’s have a better one next year lol.

  2. PPD is no joke! A lot of women go untreated and it is misunderstood (or sometimes lumped in the expected feeling of having a baby and being tired). I feel bad for any woman that has to deal with it alone or belives it is “just her”. Men should also educate themselves about the symptoms and treatments. Hopefully, men are doing a better job of taking time away from work to help out with the newborn and recovery.

    1. I absolutely agree. Dad’s should have some common knowledge of the signs so they can help the mom’s get the help they need. PPD is the worst depression I’ve ever felt and am so thankful I got help for it. I couldn’t imagine going through life without the help and I too feel terrible for the women who think it’s just them!

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