Spice Things Up – Cuffs

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Whether you’ve been together for five months or fifty years there are bound to be times when things could be a little more adventurous, a little sexier.

Cuffs 101

NOTE* Make sure you ask for permission before you try to use cuffs on your partner. Unless there has been an agreement between the both of you on consensual non-consent.

Ah, cuffs. The wonderful little devices that allow you to relinquish (or gain) all control. We’ve all seen them and I’m sure most of us played with them as kids. Some of us have even been in them (sexually and/or criminally). I personally think that cuffs are the perfect addition to any couple’s “toy box”. (If you don’t have a toy box, what the hell have you been doing your whole life?) It can really change the mood up when they bring out the cuffs.

Experimenting with new things can be both scary and exhilarating so make sure you are both comfortable with this sort of thing, otherwise, that kills the whole point of experimenting. If you are both comfortable, the excitement can cause a more intense experience which you’re then rewarded with a more intense orgasm.

Types of Cuffs

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I’m a sucker for cuffs because it gives one person all the control. I’m no stranger to cuffs and I’ve been on both the giving and receiving side of things, meaning, I’ve been in them but I’ve also put N in them. It’s hot but I do prefer to be in them.

There’s something so sexy about giving up control and just letting the other person do what they want to you. You can’t move your hands to cover up your body. You’re vulnerable and the other person has control of your pleasure. This can be especially sexy if you’ve been together for a while. Let your partner take control and show you that they really know you.

Cuffs can be used on both your wrists and your ankles and there are different types.



Metal with fur

There are even some that connect to your ankles

Some even come with a spreader bar between the cuffs. They limit your mobility while keeping your body open.

There are also super cheap plastic ones, but I advise you to stay away from those because they don’t hold and they break easier. (Sometimes this can happen with metal ones, too!)


Make sure you are comfortable and relaxed and then you need to decide who is going to be the one in the cuffs. The person wearing the cuffs should already be naked or at least just in their panties to make it easier for the person in control.

Grab lube if you need it because now is the time. You don’t want to be too far into this and stop because you need the lube. Make sure the cuffs aren’t too loose or too tight. Either of those can distract the mind from the pleasure.

Now with your partner restrained in cuffs enjoy doing things to bring them pleasure. I suggest starting out with a lot of slow foreplay- touching, licking kissing – before moving onto penetration or whatever your main event is going to be. The slow build up will cause an even more intense orgasm later on.

Guide your handcuffed partner to do (or not do) whatever it is that you want them to do. (Or not do!) Explore and find out what you guys like and don’t like. Maybe you’ll discover a new area of pleasure you’ve never experienced before.

Use your headboard, bed posts, or even a chair to your advantage to restrain your partner even farther. You could even buy a set of bed restraints like these.

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Stay sexy. Stay positive.



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