I once dated a guy with a foot fetish. I was supposedly the only girl that he had ever told about it. But he was also a great liar so who is to say that he wasn’t lying to me.
I don’t like to kink shame. It’s not what my blog is about. If you don’t have a foot fetish then you don’t understand what it is about feet that people with this fetish love. I don’t have a foot fetish so I’m with those of you that don’t understand. But that doesn’t mean someone needs to feel like a lesser human being because they are sexually aroused by feet. It’s just their thing. let them have it. (Sex-positive blog remember?)
We’ll call the guy I was seeing “John”. I’ll be the first to admit that when John told me he had a foot fetish I was a little weirded out. I knew nothing about the fetish. But I’ve really never been one to kink shame. Even in my naivety. John pulled out a stack of porn magazines from under his bed. All foot fetish magazines. I looked at the magazines with him to try and understand the fetish. To see what I could do to please him.
It was odd for me – someone without a foot fetish – when he sucked on my toes and wanted to fuck my feet, but I let him. I even bought new heels to wear and made sure to use lotion and paint my nails all the time. I had never known anyone with this fetish so it didn’t really sink in to me that people thought feet were sexy until I met him.
My three-month-long relationship with John was full of a lot of bullshit. But letting him take pleasure in his fetish was probably the only normal part of our relationship. You do anything for someone you are in lust with. I wouldn’t describe our sex life as “passionate” by any means, but I let him fuck my feet.
I’m happy for the experience I gained from this relationship because it gave me insight into fetishes. It helped me to discover something new. Did I enjoy having my feet fucked? Eh. It was a little strange but it gave me more experience. And sure John was a complete douchebag and we were toxic together, but I discovered new parts of my own sexuality from being with him.
According to nature.com, who ran a study in 2007, 33% of fetishes have to do with a specific body part with feet being the most common fetish. That’s a pretty high statistic for something society likes to shame. Foot fetishes or podophilia as it’s scientifically called, are so much more common than people think.
There’s a lot that goes on when it comes to a foot fetish. It can be so much more than just feet. Wikipedia.com states that “Foot fetishism has been defined as a pronounced sexual interest in feet. For a foot fetishist, points of attraction may include the shape and size of feet and toes (e.g. long toes, short toes, painted toenails, high arches, soles, etc.), jewelry (e.g. toe rings, anklets, etc.), treatments (such as massaging, washing partners feet or painting partner’s toenails), state of dress (barefoot, flip flops, sandals, high heels, hosiery, socked feet, etc.), foot odor and/or sensory interaction (e.g. rubbing the foot, tickling, smelling, kissing, biting, licking, sucking toes, rubbing genitals on foot, etc.) “
So, as you can see there’s a lot of different aspects to foot fetishes. It’s not so black and white. It’s believed that foot fetishes could be caused by a cross-wiring in the brain between the feet and the genitals. (But that still doesn’t mean you should be ashamed.) Read this article by YourTango.com writer modernempress. She did so much research into this finding.
If you have a foot fetish, EMBRACE IT.
Stay sexy. Stay Positive.